I’ve always heard people say that it doesn’t feel like they’ve been married 5, 10, 15 or 20 years! After being married for the past 4 years, I totally understand what they mean! Time seems to go by so fast! The days feel long, but they’re actually very short! Months turn into years before you know it! Brian and I got married on our dating anniversary August 17th, 2014. It doesn’t feel like it’s been 4 years since that day! It’s crazy to think about everything that has changed or happened since that day! We’ve both learned a lot over the last 4 years and want to share a bit of marriage advice with you!

Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff

Brian and I are totally different in a lot of ways! I’m more of a neat freak, Brian not so much! I’m very frugal, Brian not so much! I tend to stress over things pretty easily, Brian not so much! It’s easy to get upset over small things like clothes on the floor or shoes in the living room under the couch! But I’ve learned that you can’t sweat the small stuff! If something really bothers you, calmly let the other person know and work together towards a resolution! I’ve learned to look over a lot of things that would once get on my nerves! You just kind of learn to be okay with things that aren’t a big deal!

Teamwork is Key

We both believe that teamwork is very important in any relationship! Especially in a marriage! It’s important to set goals and make plans together! It’s easy to want to do your own thing, but remember that a marriage is a team. Working together makes any goal easier. Especially when you’re both on the same page!

Remember to Have Fun

After so many years together, we tend to get caught up in the day to day! We’ve been married for 4 years, but together for 10 years. So we have to remind ourselves from time to time that we have to keep things fun! Even if it’s something simple like cooking together. Or watching one of our favorite TV shows. Or even going out with friends! Never forget to have fun! I believe that laughter is good for the soul and keeping things fun is great for a relationship!

In celebration of our special day, here’s our wedding day slideshow!

Our Wedding Day | August 17th, 2014 from Tosha and Brian on Vimeo.